Marriage?

So right now I love my husband but I HATE our marriage IF you could even call it that. I hate pretending that nothings wrong. Honestly I pretty sure its not fooling anyone. I am not happy how can I be? I have very little trust in him and there is NO romance whatsoever! I always to nice things and send him little romantic notes I get NOTHING. I get an "love you" every now and then and a compliment when I ask for one. So basically our "marrige" is one sided. I make the effort he does nothing. When we get to actually live together if things dont change then we are going to counsling. I though I was supposed to be able to tell my husband anything but I cant at least not without him getting mad or upset or telling someone else. Actually there are very few people I can tell anything to without it spreading like wild fire. So I give up on being open and honest. I am second guessing going out to visit him in November because none of my friends out there talk to me on a regular basis anymore and as of now my husband isnt even talking to me so I guess I'll be staying in WA or driving to Cali for Thanksgiving. We shall see I have a lot of prayers to say and thinking to do I hate this.